Summer Catechism, an early religious experience


     Perhaps I was eight years old, perhaps it was June.  Not too hot yet, but summer vacation.  Our small town Catholic church, St. Bartholomew’s, had the honor of nuns coming out from the city to teach us catechism for a week.  We brought our breakfasts – this is what I remember with joy!  There was a grove of trees with picnic tables throughout, sun shining through.  The grass was still a bit dewy.  My mother sent my younger sister and I with little boxes of cereal and milk.  The boxes, rice krispies or cornflakes, would open along dotted lines forming a bowl with waxed paper lining; we’d open the milk cartons, pour the milk in, and have our breakfast.  All the tables were filled with children together eating this special outdoor breakfast.  Everything seemed shiny and lovely.
     After breakfast we went to class outdoors, which also seemed special.  We sat on folding chairs on the grass in the open sunshine.  I’d barely ever seen a nun before.  They seemed alright, not mean or scary, but not as personal as our classroom teachers at school.  They were intent on teaching us ideas they felt were very important, and those as much and clearly as possible in this short time.  We memorized the catechism and were given holy cards with pictures of saints as rewards. The catechism explained all about life and how we should live.  They told us how Jesus had suffered because Adam and Eve had eaten an apple when they were told not to and so we were all born in sin and couldn’t go to heaven when we die.  Jesus had made things OK for us with God again by his terrible death.
     After class we went into the church to do the Stations of the Cross alone and go to confession.  Doing the Stations was very painful for me physically.  I didn’t know if it was the same for everyone else.  I did it because I was told to.  I’d go to the first picture on the wall:  “Jesus is tried by Pilate”, and read the story, then kneel down as the book said to and read the prayer of love for Jesus. I’d stand up and move to the next picture, “Jesus is whipped”, look at the picture, read the story, kneel down and say the prayer of thanks to Jesus.  There were fourteen pictures, each more gory and sad than the one before. 
     After doing this spiritual exercise I’d try to go to Confession.  I was raised to be a “good girl” so I didn’t do much of anything others’ thought wrong, so going to Confession was hard.  I usually had to repeat the same sins over each time:  “I forgot to say my night prayers.  I was mad at my sister.”  Maybe I’d add a general “I disobeyed my parents”  but actually I never did this.  Confession was also lots of kneeling and physically hard for me, but I never told anyone about how my body hurt. I supposed everyone experienced their bodies the way I did.  Besides, I’d learned that it pleases God for us to suffer silently.  The example of Jesus’ suffering and dying to please God made this clear.
Many years later when I was sixteen it was finally discovered that I have a severe curvature in my lower back; my spine was almost falling off my pelvis!  Many, many times I had to do things that felt too much and were painful and exhausting, but I had meditated many times on the story of Jesus’ sufferings so I never complained about my own suffering.
     At summer catechism, after confessing our sins we were done for the morning and my mom would pick us up for lunch.  I did like learning about life and religion and the promise that God loves and cares for us.  It was fascinating to be close to these unusual women all covered in black with only their faces showing.  I dreaded doing the Stations of the Cross though the story touched me deeply. Confession made me feel guilty because I mostly had to lie to do it, not seeing anything clearly sinful in the way I lived.  Eating breakfast outdoors in the sunshine and dewy grass with other children still brings me joy to remember.
    All of these experiences were the ground upon which much thinking happened as the years went forward.  I endured suffering I should not have.  Finally it became too much and I spoke my true experience of my body and was able to get relief through surgery.  It took much more suffering yet to learn that The Source of my Life really is trying to lead me towards happiness and out of lifestyles and beliefs that value suffering for its own sake.  It would take much, much more experience and reflection to figure this out….

The Indian Blanket


     At that moment I was way, way into adulthood, too old to be so wimpy.  Yes, I was still distraught – my husband, Tom, had died of a heart attack just one year earlier at age 42 – but what’s puzzling is how typical this moment was for me.  I see myself starkly, I feel now how frozen I was.  How had I come to this? 
      I had wanted to go back, even alone, to the field in the woods where Tom and I had gone together on the motorcycle, to the great field with six-or-seven-deep circles of pine on the far side of the expanse.  The field was so big we’d hardly noticed the small circle of trees.  We’d parked the motorcycle on the edge of the forest, took off all our clothes as it was hot and so remote, and wandered toward the only interesting thing in the landscape,  a far-off grove.  Upon arriving there I walked in among the pines, meandered around, and finally stood in the middle to feel the energy.  I remembered Carlos Castaneda’s writings about places of power, particularly how he’d said that warriors must find their own specific Place of Power where their spirit will go after they die, where before leaving the earth they will do their warrior’s last dance.  I later decided that this would be my Place of Power when I die.
    Tom was wandering around somewhere by himself. Then he found me and said he thought it was time to go. We ambled back to the motorcycle, put on our clothes, and drove off through the endless quiet woods of the Mannistee National Forest to my family’s cottage on the little lake.
     Now two years later I was trying to pull together some new life.  After twenty shared years, Tom was suddenly gone.  I had come to the cottage alone.  I wasn’t able to drive the motorcycle, but in the tool shed I found an old one-gear bike.  I took a faded Indian blanket that had been part of my family’s picnicking throughout my childhood, wrapped a can of bug spray in it and somehow put it on the back of the bike.  I wasn’t sure how to find this field; all these sandy trails through the woods looked the same, but I headed off as best I could remember.
     Riding the heavy old bike on trails of sand was barely easier than walking, but I pushed forward slowly.  Finally, to my surprise, I came to the field.   As I got off the bike I realized I’d lost the Indian blanket.  “It must have fallen off,” I thought.  I stood by the bike looking back down the road, trying to decide what to do.  Reverse down the difficult trail for an unknown distance?  There was sentiment with the Indian blanket, besides wanting to sit on it in the circle of pines.
      As I stood there, weary and unsure, a pickup truck came down the trail.  Two men sitting in the front drove slowly by me, so close we could have shaken hands.  Their window was open; they said nothing.  And I, too, said nothing!  I hoped they would stop and offer me what I’d lost:  “Did you drop something on the trail?” they might say.  But they did not.  They looked at me but all was silent as they continued slowly on.
      I remember my mouth feeling sewn shut, forbidden to speak. Frozen.
     They were men, like my father; this was part of the situation.  As men, they seemed powerful, and I was a small woman of 43 who still felt like a girl-child.
     They were strangers.  I had never seen my parents talk comfortably with complete strangers.  I did not feel permission to do that.
     It was not that I felt the men were dangerous, it was not that at all, though they looked like men of the woods, surely hunters in the fall, surely ignoring regulations when they didn’t like them.  Was it my mother inside me?  “Hold everything that’s you inside, silent and unshown.”  My earliest real memory as a child is of looking up and seeing her crying quietly, as if she were trying to hide this show of true feelings.  Her example of silence had told me “Take what Life and men give you; you cannot have what you want.”  The Great Depression had taught her this stoicism, as well as the general culture of her times that gave all decisions to the husband.
    What else?  Was it something I’d been taught or was it just something missing in my experience?   Why could I not ask for what I wanted?
    As I try to answer this question, I look farther back for any clues from my childhood. A  memory arises.  I’m maybe five or six, standing on a beautiful wooded hill in autumn that slopes steeply down to the Muskegon River.  My dad has just said to Mom that his dad, Grandpa M, has some old wooden skis in his garage.  Excitement rises up in me; I can see the skis in my mind’s eye.  Wouldn’t it feel grand to go down this steep hill on skis?  But how does one get up the hill again?  How does one stop and not run into trees?  Would they ever let me try Grandpa’s skis?  Would it be dangerous?  I wanted to try skiing, try sailing down this steep hill in the winter snow, but I stood there silent, small between the grown-ups, quiet as I always was, no bother to them.  I never asked about the skis, or how does one do this skiing, and they never even knew I was interested.  A desire unspoken, silenced at the gate – the closed mouth.
    Another memory follows.  I’m maybe 10 or 11;  it’s Christmas and we’re at my maternal grandparents house for dinner. “Uncle Moe” (we couldn’t say “Melvin” when we were little) was still living at home as a young quiet bachelor.  Upstairs I tiptoed briefly into his room and he showed me his ham radio, through which he could talk to people far away, even in other countries.  I was excited by this!  Wouldn’t that be fun to be able to do this, to talk to people far away, to make friends in other countries?  But did I ever ask him or anyone if I could learn it?  No, of course not.  No one ever knew that interest in my heart.
     “Do not ask.”
     We will give you all you need, all we can.  We give and give abundantly, but please do not ask for something from your own heart.  Somehow I felt this unspoken rule.
     Once the secret desire in my own heart matched something Dad wanted too, and without asking I received a gift that matched my secret longing!  I’m still surprised to remember this. One amazing day I was sitting in boring Spanish class when someone knocked on the classroom door.  I was called down to the school office.  On the way my best friend fell in step beside me as she, too, had been called out. The superintendent greeted us in his quiet stiff manner and invited us into a little room. As we entered I saw a circle of men around the table and recognized one, our friend Mr. V, the only Catholic on the school board.  Yes, this was the school board.  Then someone explained to us that they’d been thinking it would be enriching for the school to send some students to other countries as exchange students and have foreign students come here.  Would we like to go abroad as exchange students?
   Oh my!   Would I like to travel abroad as an exchange student??  Would I like to …
This had been in my heart for several years.  I had never asked my father; I would never ask him.  I had three younger sisters; to spend such money on me would take too much from the family pot, I knew.  Dad had already taught me this when I had sent for mail about a Catholic girls’ school in Miami that I longed to attend.  He must have seen the mail because out of the blue one day he said “I pay taxes for public schools; I’m not sending you girls to private schools.”  Don’t ask.  Don’t ask.
    But now the School Board had “chosen” me!  And they had already talked with our parents and received an OK.  Later I learned that they had picked five students out of our class of 44 and visited all their parents: any student could go whose parents would pay for it: the School Board was not giving any financial help at all.  We were the only two whose parents agreed to pay for the trip.
     So I spent a summer in Sweden, an experience that jerked me out of my small town life into a much larger view of the world.  If I had asked for this experience, I’m sure the answer would have been “No, we can’t afford such a big thing,” but the honor my being “chosen” gave some kudos to my dad.  For once my heart’s desire matched what the world offered me.
   In hindsight now, I’m thinking perhaps this was not good.  This experience seemed to feed my passivity, this principle by which I was living – that everything good in life would come to me without my asking.  The right to ask for what I want, the responsibility to ask – these have been missing in me for some reason.
    There is the possibility that it all began as Freud might have predicted, with – the mother.  Dad told the story more than once about that long drive from Michigan to Georgia when he was in the Air Force.  There I was an infant lying in the back, crying and crying to be fed.   “Feed the kid – she’s hungry!” Dad would say.  And Mom would answer, “I can’t!  The book says she should only eat every four hours!” The mother separated from her own good instincts by theories of control over nature and the authority of doctors.  I cannot remember this experience but I can only imagine what a baby would eventually figure out when crying for all she’s worth gets no response.  “Speaking out for what I want is not the way to get what I want.  What is the way?” she would search.  “I can only watch these two big people and see what pleases them.  They have what I need and it seems that dancing for them is the way to survive.”  This, I surmise, would be what a baby figures without words or thoughts when crying out for what one needs gets  nowhere.
    Perhaps gratitude has also been part of the problem.  Our major income was Dad’s work doing tax accounting for individuals, so of course he worked like a beaver from January through April 15th.  Then in the summer he really played when he played.  But seeing him work late hours, night after night, month after month, gave me pause if I wanted to ask for something that cost money.  He was already putting out lots of money to give us as much happiness as he could.  To ask for more felt like adding to his burdens.
    But still, here I stood at age 43 wanting my Indian blanket back and unable to open my mouth and ask for it.  Something is not healthy in this picture.
    I have received rather than pursued my life. For much of it I’ve felt like a tiny boat pushed around this way and that, sometimes in calm waters in coves shaded by loving trees, often out alone feeling winds heartlessly whipping me around, the world wanting things from me, trying to form me into what others needed me to be.  In all these desires of others pushing and pulling on me, I’ve still and always felt a compass inside that kept me paddling, swimming, in a crazy zigzag way, trying to pull myself back onto a course that I would recognize as ‘truly me’ where I could feel comfortable with myself. 
    Often the best I could do was to say “No” to what I would finally recognize as Not Me.  In so many of my life’s experiences I would finally come to see that this was not IT, not what I was looking for, did not feel right and I needed to get out of something and continue searching elsewhere.
    I remember in college I’d decided to minor in speech and drama because I admired a particular prof and was growing a lot in oral interpretation and public speaking.  I had to take an acting course but acting felt impossible.  I knew this clearly when I was assigned to be my opposite,  Bernarda Alba, the mother/tyrant in Garcia Lorca’s “The House of Bernarda Alba”.  I could not let myself go and pretend to be someone I clearly was not.   How could I let go of myself when I hadn’t yet found myself?  The direction I needed was not out of myself; I was still desperately trying to hold onto something very fragile, small, tenuous but essential – still trying to find “me.”
    One of my strange zigs or zags was the two years I spent in the convent.  Among other frustrations I felt while there was that all day long, day after day, I could never make a decision about anything.  How could I know who I was without making choices?  I longed for the freedom that every young adult longs for – to begin to try to make my own life – by choosing. One of several reasons I’d gone there in the first place was because I was so confused about what to do with my life; it seemed easier to let someone representing God tell me what to do. But that ended in another “No” – No, after all, having someone tell me every small and large move to make did not feel like “It”. 
     Perhaps finding “no’s” was like a sculptor with a large chunk of stone.  They say the sculptor must find a form that’s there inside the rock by chipping away everything that’s not the form.  I’ve learned to recognize what doesn’t feel like “It”, what doesn’t feel like “me.”
    That convent adventure was also the result of a “Father Knows Best” moment.  I really, really wanted to go to the great University of Michigan for my college studies. When I did ask my dad, he said “No” so quickly he never remembered it.  “You’d get homesick like my sister, your aunt, did at Michigan State.  You’d be just a little fish in a big sea,” he said.  I had asked for what I dearly wanted.  Thus silenced, I began an intense religious search for some guidance:  now, where to?  How to find a future that felt like “me”, especially in a world that still expected girls to marry and spend their lives raising children?  Eventually the convent seemed the only thing to try, so I could live a dedicated life without marrying.
    But once I left the convent – having discerned that this was not It – I still felt the pressures of what the world expected: marriage, then children.  Whew.  Still searching for some congruity between my exterior and my interior.
    I fell into line and married and raised children, then did what other interesting work and study I could do with whatever energy and time was left.  Finally now at age sixty two I feel myself relaxing a bit, feeling I’ve found a free enough place where I can be my simple self.
    My simple self!   That’s what I’ve been looking for!  Not trying to live up to what others need or want from me.  Imperfect, unglamorous, gentle, content with an ordinary little life.  “It’s OK to make mistakes,” I write in my journal.  “It’s OK to choose differently from my parents and family.”  “It’s OK to be unseen;”  “It’s OK to be seen.” “It’s OK if not everyone likes me.” “It’s OK to want what I want.”  Healing words.  My body breathes as I say these and other words I’ve learned, my whole being relaxes.  I have worked hard to find these words.  
     I feel my feet; I feel my butt against the chair.  I’m in my body unafraid.  I can talk with men now.  How did this happen?  I can usually say what I want and dialogue over it, listening to the response of the other. How did I finally get here? Wrangling with the two great guys I married – that certainly changed me!  Even the two widowhoods brought me gifts of warmth and connectedness with others. Having babies, raising children  – I didn’t wannna do it, but it put my feet on the ground and certainly kept me in my body. And raising children was fun! It’s been a real heart-warmer that connected me with every other parent on earth. And living in the big city with neighbors of every race and nationality has been delightful and enriching. 
       I’ve found good friends whom I respect and by whom I feel respected. I found a spiritual family that feels true for me, where I can speak, even haltingly, without censure. I learned to trust an Interior Guidance, that Something loving and wise leads me forward if I trust myself to listen and hear it.  I did much interior work: spent years reading and thinking and talking with others, trying to figure out what I’m made of and how to be a human being.  I learned to write my thoughts out truthfully.  One small book I read on Assertiveness Training said I have a right to speak up or to ask for what I want, even when I can’t explain myself.  That thought really empowered me. 
     And then, – counseling others.  For several years I counseled adults in the Literacy, G.E.D., and English as a Second Language programs of a community college.  I was honored to have every imaginable variation of men and women share with me the insides of their hearts and guts and minds. I remember with delight one of the very first problems presented to me: a Kurdish woman whose father had two wives and twenty adult children who hated each other.  She wanted me to tell her how to get her father to write a will so the two families wouldn’t kill each other when he died.  To my amazement, I found a way; her father sounded eerily like my own father and I told her what I had learned from my own life…  Then I counseled an old Mexican gambler who’d lost his wife and house to his addiction, and a Puerto Rican mother who was trying valiantly to free herself of heroin so she could keep her children.  Two separate gay Mexican men came who had each tried to kill themselves.   A fine young African doctor was busing tables while trying desperately to pass the licensing exam in English. An Iranian woman whose husband drank and beat her every day for twentyone years became a big part of my life.  A middle-aged black man who could not learn to write no matter how he tried was scared to death his boss would find out.  Well-educated Muslim women came with their husbands speaking for them.  Young black men now with prison records from small drug associations asked me to help them find a path for their future. A Thai woman had had to drop out of school in third grade because she was a girl; for nine years she’d been taking classes to learn English but still could not pass the written nurse assistant test.  Many medical doctors and college professors came, engineers, storeowners, plumbers, truck drivers, prostitutes, mothers on welfare, some homeless people.  I remember the Iraqi youth who came to me with half his face paralyzed:  he’d been fired immediately after the September 11th tragedy because he was Iraqi.  Two weeks later his face was normal again after he found another job.  A young Mexican gangbanger (his words) was heartbroken when his girl took their baby and left.  A mother came to me whose son had been murdered in El Salvador; black parents came whose teens were getting into drugs.  There were marriage problems I was not trained to counsel, but without money, to whom else could these people go?  Legal problems came to me that were hopeless for illegal people with no rights, and my heart felt sad that I could not help. Sitting at my desk I traveled breathless all over the world and into the corners and houses of every neighborhood.  How could I be afraid of anyone now?   I‘ve completely forgotten what the word “stranger” means. 
     Though my life has felt so unacceptable to me in many ways, my heart has been opened and connected by all this experience.  It must be this connectedness that enables me, finally at sixtytwo, to speak and ask for what I want or need.  So now if I stood at the trail it would be easy to ask the men as they pass me in their truck, “Did you see my blanket on the trail?”  They would grin and give me my Indian blanket, and with ease I would turn around and walk toward the field.
    But the ending of this story cannot change.  Someone else took control of the end and it’s not in my power to change the way it actually happened.
     In fact, I turned around and headed across the meadow to the pines.  Something seemed different as I approached – something wasn’t right.  Then I stood there at the edge of the grove, once more completely silenced.  There’d been a fire.  Almost all the trees were charred and bare.  I walked through row after row, dumbfounded.  The trees in the woods around the field seemed untouched.  I walked to the middle of the burnt pines  and stood there, turning around, puzzling.
     Suddenly I understood.  Tom had been here.    Somewhere in those forty days after  leaving his body, when the soul is still near around earth according to the Byzantine tradition in which he was buried, sometime before I saw the rainbow near our house on the fortieth day, his spirit had come here and he had done his warrior’s last dance. He had burnt the trees to tell me he’d been here and that he, too, was a person of power.
    How right.  He was a great person and I was honored to know him so well.  He had laughed at those New Agey ideas, but he respected me and was open to expanding.  In his own solid way he had been big in life and in spirit.     
       I turned slowly around and gave a respectful bow to all the trees, then walked to my bicycle and peddled slowly back alone to the little cottage on the little lake to live my contented little life, connected comfortably with other imperfect and marvelous people just like myself.
       Now I will find a new Place of Power for my own last dance on the earth.
    

Birthday Joy

   Enclosed here is a poem and a link (hopefully) in celebration of my 70th birthday.  The address will take you to YouTube video of 80 happy people singing their hearts out in fun, plus the marvelous cake with cannoli rum filling and buttercream frosting with the little gypsy dancers on top.  You can also see pics of the beautiful worship space of Unity Temple, the Frank Lloyd Wright church in which the party was held.
   The  poem is from Carolyn Aguila, a neighbor from many, many years ago in Chicago when we took in Kevin Price Sanchez and Kelly Price Jorgensen as foster children one winter.  Carolyn has a wonderful published book of her own Chicago/family/literature based poems:  “Flirting with Rhyme and Reason,  EM Press, Channahon, IL 2006.
     YouTube:   Marti’s 70th Birthday          

      by Kevin Sanchez

Marti’s Matthew’s 70th Birthday – Dec 27, 2014

   

 
GRATITUDE AND ACKNOWLEDGMENT
By Carolyn S. Aguila ~ December 27, 2014
 On the occasion of Marti Matthews’ 70th Birthday—
 City moms have different worries,

but all moms worry,
about all children,
all the time.
It’s always been so.

In ancient ages,

young boys and girls were sent
to uncles and aunts for fostering,
particularly when mothers grew tired
from the fretting.
Sometimes a family needs a rest from itself—
–or an urgent matter must be tended to
far from a child’s daily life.

I would not learn

until many years latter
that my own bricked city street
harbored such a mother
who mothered without question
the child of another,
a woman who understood
the sacred mission of tending to children
who were not her own,
but who were in need.

This is ancient,

this type of generosity,
and it is passed on and between and among
the bones and blood of motherhood.
We are finer, brighter, and sturdier because of these mothers—
   –and one is named, Marti.

                         Happy Birthday.
 
 
 
 

Tom’s Inspirations

    Today, Sept. 17, 2014, is the fifth anniversary of the return to spirit of my son, Tom Dix.
    In memory of him, I’ve posted this list of 65 inspirational quotes that Tom had put into an oatmeal box, apparently to pull out now and then to inspire himself. There are a great variety; some are like fortunes..You could print the page out, cut them separate for yourself, even add your own and get yourself an oatmeal box . Do this fun discipline to keep your spirit going.
       You might also like to read the previous posting here:”After-Death Communication with my Son” and the posting for Sept.17, 2013:”Death is not the End”, a long and excellent reading of Tom’s presence through a medium.
  • . You ask me how I can remain calm and not become agitated when those around me are bustling about. What can I say to you? I didn’t come into the world to upset it. Isn’t it disturbed enough already?
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  • Limits and markers make travel possible for people: circumscribe our lines of sight and we can really get somewhere.
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  • First and foremost, remember that you are unique. Your life is a once-told tale, an unrepeatable drama. No one has your mixture of passion and inhibitions, sensuality and fears, generosity and greed. No-body has identical erogenous zones or ways of expressing love.
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  • Solitude is the nurse of enthusiasm, and enthusiasm is the true part of genius.
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  • The best remedy for dispute is to discuss it.
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  • No one can solve problems for someone whose problem is that they don’t want their problems solved.
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  • God, grant me patience for the changes that take time; an appreciation for all that I have; tolerance for those with different struggles; and the strength to get up and try again, one day at a time.
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  • There/here is the ‘Same-old-you’ and here is the ‘Same-old-me’: What we do together is new-born, in between. It has never happened before. Will never again.
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  • Better to pray for yourself than to curse another.
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  • It is only in solitude that men and women can come to know the happiness that is like the delight of children in nothing at all.
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  • Forcing someone to do something religious is useless.
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  • Those who want to know everything become old while they are young.
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  • It is far better to withhold our judgment on something we do not understand than to condemn it. We can leave understanding until later.
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  • He who has placed himself in God’s hand stands free vis-a-vis man: he is entirely at his ease with them, because he has granted them the right to judge.
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  • Speak from your heart and you will speak to God.
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  • Fear is tangled with humility and humility is tangled with grace.
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  • The only independent element in ourselves is the attention of our mind.
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  • The capacity to be alone is a valuable resource when changes of mental attitude are required.
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  • The “great” commitment is so much easier than the ordinary one – and can all too easily shut our hearts to the letter. A willingness to make the ultimate sacrifice can be associated with, and even produce, a great hardness of heart.
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  • Tears smash through the gates and doors of heaven.
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  • You are much loved.
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  • You will not obtain what you love if you do not bear a great deal that you hate, and you will not be released from what you hate if you do not bear a great deal from what you love.
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  • The courage to not betray what is noblest in oneself is considered, at best, to be pride. And the critic finds his judgment confirmed when he sees consequences which, to him, must look very like the punishment for a mortal sin.
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  • In our era, the road to holiness necessarily passes through the world of action.
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  • Forgiveness is unconditional, or it is not forgiveness at all…Only because (of) this, does forgiveness make love possible. We cannot love unless we have accepted forgiveness, and the deeper our experience of forgiveness, the greater our love.  We cannot love where we feel rejected, even if the rejection is done in righteousness.”                -Paul Tillich
  • An American disease…is forgetfulness. A person or people who cannot recollect their past have little point beyond mere animal existence: it is memory that makes things matter.
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  • It is better for the health of the soul to make one person good than “to sacrifice oneself for all humanity.”
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  • The purer the eye of her attention, the more power the soul finds within herself. Strive, then, constantly to purify the eye of your attention until it becomes utterly simple and direct.
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  • Nobody grows old by merely living a number of years. People grow old by giving up their ideals.
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  • If we are dependent on each other for the order that makes life possible, we are even more dependent on each other for the kind of disorder that makes life human.
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  • “Whether somebody is praising you or blaming you, renounce your feelings for either. Only then will you find the highest. To go higher, have equal vision.”
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  • It was when Lucifer first congratulated himself upon his angelic behavior that he became the tool of evil.
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  • Those who do not grow, grow smaller.
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  • In faith, I do not love thee with mine eyes, for they in thee a thousand errors note. But ’tis my heart that loves what they despise.
  • “Forgiveness, human and divine, looks forward. It is the means whereby the future can be different from the past. It is not the same as resignation or acceptance, because of this hope; it believes things can change.” -John Lampen
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  • Namaste – the God in me salutes the God in you.
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  • If you insist you’re right long enough, you’ll be wrong.
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  • Sincerity is, in its origin, a power of the mind that can exist under any conditions of life. All that is needed is a basic discrimination between what is actually within one’s power and what is not.
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  • I believe we should die with decency so that at least decency will survive.
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  • Make your ideas, ideals. Live into your thoughts. Manifest them. Pay attention to your inner world.
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  • Always be on sentry-duty for the chance to do a good deed.
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  • Beware of mirages. Do not run or fly away in order to get free; rather dig in the narrow place which has been given you; you will find God there and everything, God does not float on your horizon, he sleeps in your substance. Vanity runs, Love digs. If you fly away from yourself, your prison will run with you and will close in because of the wind of your flight; if you go deep down into yourself, it will disappear in paradise.” -Gustave Thibon
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  • “Time is the beauty of the road being long.” -J. Popper, Blues Traveler, song: “Just Wait”
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  • Those who are compassionate when they should be stern end up being stern when they should be compassionate.
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  • The fulfillment of every individual vocation demands not only renouncement of what is bad in itself, but also of all the precise goods that are not willed for us by God in our particular calling.
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  • If I am not for myself, who will be? But if I am only for myself, what am I?
  • To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance. -Oscar Wilde
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  • Truth cannot be found in appearances.
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  • When a baby is born a mother is born, too. At birth, and for months thereafter, her needs for contact exceed those of the infant.
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  • When the focus is shifted from the outer to the inner, true contentment arises. True Love is found.
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  • The price you must pay for your own liberation through another’s sacrifice is that you in turn must be willing to liberate in the same way, irrespective of the consequences to yourself.
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  • Our life is like a tapestry. And by the tapestry’s nature, it demands that we work on it from the back. In a blind. The Sabbath is a reminder that one day in seven, or one hour in seven, we should step back and turn our tapestry over so we can see the larger pattern of who we are, the implications of our efforts, and the world wherein we work.
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  • Science without religion is lame; religion without science is blind.
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  • Romantic love is often a case of mistaken identity.
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  • What I’ve come to cherish I’ve come to slowly, usually blindly, not seeing it for some time…
  • There is nobody from whom you cannot learn. Before God, who speaks through all people, you are always in the bottom class of nursery school.
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  • Love is an irresistible desire to be irresitably desired. -attributed to Robert Frost
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  • We have to try to cure our faults by attention and not by will.
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  • Most of humanity’s grievous suffering is brought about by our desire for what is unnecessary.
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  • Love your enemies in case your friends turn out to be a bunch of bastards. -R.A.Dickson
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  • Seeing is believing but feeling is the truth.
  • Once you tell somebody the way that you feel, you can feel it beginning to heal.
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  • In an encounter with Divine Reality we do not hear a voice but acquire one – and the voice we acquire is our own.
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  • The heart has its reasons, which reason cannot understand.
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  • Leave a good name behind, in case you return.

Re: poems on Daffodils

From Pamela Timme    Thank you so much, Marti. I am going to the Arboretum to see the daffodils on Saturday, so especially enjoyed reading Tom’s piece. They’re all lovely!

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Thank you so much Marti, I read your poem – such an eloquent description of that traumatic time – and Tom’s writing – I felt “with him” again, after so long. I had no idea he wrote that much after his stroke. And the Wordsworth poem is an old favorite of mine – I had it memorized at one point!
Love,
Marilyn Myles
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Thank you for sharing those wonderful poems. I just finished from doing our taxes all day and reading the poems helped me return to a more peaceful, present state of being,

Sweet dreams, Vanessa
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Marti,

I’ve always liked that Wordsworth poem, too. Ecstasy that seeps into our souls….such a lovely way of putting how beauty enters us. And your tender poem, marking that difficult, beautiful winter….then love claims the body…..that line washed over me. Thanks for sending these splashes of brightness into my morning.
Carol Tyx

Comments on Early Spring Poems

Hi Lynn,
Only you could create joy from the stinkiness of a skunk cabbage! I tried to put this comment right onto your website but I had to choose to be things that I wasn’t and failed. Hope your spaces between snows get longer. I’m at work on the last big section of my Zimbabwe memoir. Then I have to organize and add in some vignettes, but it basically feels finished.
Love, Natalie

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Marti,

What I need to live, life will offer…..such a line to hang on to. Love the simplicity and at the same time, the depth of these poems.

Your essay on dancing reminded me of a day last summer when I went to a downtown Iowa City outdoor music event. In the back of the crowd a young man in a wheelchair was waving his arms around. Feeling more outgoing than I am at other times, I went back and danced a number with him. Such enthusiasm for dancing!

Thanks for sending the reminders of life’s beauty…..as well as its complications.

Carol Tyx

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Dear Sis~

Hi there, and happy spring! I loved your poems in the recent posting – are you the author of all of them? I’d especially like to refer/reprint the Frog one – so cheery and sweet –

All the Best~ Terry
Terry Matthews-Lombardo, CMP TML SERVICES

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Great concept, Marti! Where do you get these ideas? sounds like, by sitting in quiet. They just drop by! Bonni McKeown

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Hi Marti,I enjoyed the poems. They are very cute and inspiring regarding the lovely sights of spring. Now, I can not wait for spring to come and show all of its beauty. How are you doing? Its looks like all of well. Love, Dottie

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Mar 26 Re: Early Spring Poems

Good evening, Lynn! You are so creative! I just read your poems and can imagine the sights and smells!!! Even tho we still have a foot of snow on the ground and 28inches of us on the lake!!! Thank you for making my day!

Love, Jamie

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FROM Ethel Potts TO You

Marti – In Michigan we still have about half of our snow left on the ground. However, I see green shoots of a few confused snow drops in the back yard. Will they survive the still-with-us temperatures in the teens and twenties? They must be responding to the sun. Eppie

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Thanks!
Love the poems and the handicap dance story.
Nancy Paul, Lyric Healing